Sunday, June 22, 2014

After a long time...

It's been a very long time. I'm writing after more than 16 months. That's a long break. When I started this blog; I didn't expect to share as much as I actually did. However, gradually I felt like sharing more and more. Though I felt like writing many times; I was not able to find the time to peacefully sit; open my laptop and write down a post.

What went wrong? Probably nothing. The last year has been an eventful one. It gave me numerous moments of joy and happiness; but at the same time; left me sad at many times. A lot of things changed. I got a new job; traveled new places, met new people, made new friends and bonded with older ones. At the same time, lost a couple of people very close to me. Though not directly related to me; I didn't love them any less than the one directly related to them. Also, got my portion of bad experiences on the Delhi roads, with the police and a few people. All said and done; it was, no doubt, an year to remember; just like its predecessors.

So, what brings me back? Between my last post and today, there has been one person who has been constantly encouraging me to write. Exactly, three years and two days back, I published the first personal post of my blog. Dedicated to the girl who had painted various pages of life colorful. You remember her, right? The girl I call the Angel of my life. Yes, the same girl. I wrote a lot about life with her and without her as well. As usual, she sorted out everything and we are back on track. She really never ceases to amaze me.

Being a very fickle minded person myself most of the times; she brought the much required stability to my life. She is the anchor of my life and we have been sailing together in the sea of life. The water has not settled yet and the reflection is still distorted by waves. Neither have the Rain God blessed Delhi with great downpour this time; but I am not missing them as before. Probably, my life with Angel and God have taken separate routes; and She is not the one who's disappointing me. Life has been pretty amazing with her. And yeah, one of the best moments being when I was finally able to gather the courage to tell what I felt for her and she accepted positively. Today, as we spend time together, talking of building our future; I wonder if she is still the same girl whose eyes anxiously searched for me while coming out of the gate many years ago. To an extent, she is and will always be. Things will change; people will come and go; life will continue but there are some things which shall never change. And, my love for the Imperfect Angel is one of them.

Wednesday, January 30, 2013

Silence is Not Always Golden

Time, they say, heals all the wounds. "This too shall pass" has been widely accepted as the single explanation to every situation. Though, we hardly care about it in the happy times; it is our only escape during the adverse phase. During a critical situation, we generally surrender ourselves and tend to believe in the power of time and silence in order to achieve the lost peace of mind. We are made to believe that silence is golden and in some cases, much more powerful than actions or words. Though, this holds true in some form, it depends on every individual how (s)he follows this not-so-golden rule. Silence, I believe, is not always golden.

Almost everyday in our life, we encounter situations which bother us but we try to avoid talking about them. And if the issues are connected to the person we really care for or the person we really need, silence always prevails. Whenever we are scared of hurting someone or fear getting ourselves hurt, we prefer choosing the path of silence. In short, it becomes the thumb rule whenever emotions or feelings of a person are involved.

However, we forget that keeping silence during certain aforementioned times leads to long term complications. In those situations, silence can be really painful. Instead, talking and sorting out the matter at an appropriate time should be the approach. It definitely helps and brings up the solution. The maximum damage words can do under most of the circumstances is that the person you love will be angry for some time. But in the end, when the clutter is sorted, the bond will be stronger than before. It is better to get a temporary hurt rather than keeping mum and getting a life-long non-curable wound. During the extreme times, words can even lead to losing the people you cared about. But even in that case, it shall benefit you in the long run. You will definitely land somewhere else where you might really be happy about things in your life.

Silence,is not the perfect tool for every situation as it is supposed to be. It is better to take control of the situation and find a way out and be happy and content rather than getting hurt and yet pretending to be happy. As Martin Luther King Jr. put it beautifully, "In the end, we will remember not the words of our enemies, but the silence of our friends."

P.S. Dedicated to the people who believe in the power of time and silence more than their own self and let the things continue the way they are.

Tuesday, August 28, 2012

Solve Thy Problem

Problems are part and parcel of life. But for every problem, there exists a solution. All we need to do is to show the will to achieve a favorable solution. Here is what I refer to whenever I end up in a serious problem in any relation.

Wednesday, August 22, 2012

Life with(out) an Angel - V

The clear image of the Moon was reflected in the pool of water before me. Immediately afterwards, it started raining. The clear image had turned to a distorted one. Her words echoed along with the sound of rain in my minds. “When the waves of water in the pool settle down, we get a clear picture of the life beyond those waves.” How true she was! But the basic instinct of water was flowing instead of standing still at place. And that is what brings changes the picture every now and then.

Change, people say, is the only thing constant in life. I second that. The change can be desirable or undesirable; natural or forced; good or bad, but it is always there – being an integral part of our lives. I believe we need change because lack of it would lead to stagnation and a dull and boring life. Change washes away the past behind and lets us explore newer dimensions of life. However, change is still one of the most unwelcome things in our life. We are reluctant to change because of the fear of losing something. But we forget that nothing in life is permanent. It’s our love or affection for certain things, people and places which binds us to them but at the same time, leads us to a still. We stop exploring other horizons and as a result, miss the better options and opportunities. There is nothing permanent in this world and we need to accept that. Accepting the change helps us to get rid of the ghost of the past also. It’s not that change is always unwelcome. In the bad times, one badly wishes for a change. If it asks us to try and not lose hope in bad times, it also teaches us to be calm and composed in the good times. 

I have always tried to accept the change around me; especially in the people around me. But sometimes people change too much and more importantly, they change to what they promised they’ll never be. I still try to resonate with them but there comes a point in life when you need to stop lying to yourself and accept the change, no matter how undesirable that is. You need to accept the fact that some people can stay forever in your heart only, not in your life. People change, but life goes on; and that is what is most important.

In a previous post, I’ve discussed how things will change but there will be certain things which will always be there. As the moon rises this night, it reminds me of my imperfect choice. The Moon will always be there, without any change, and remind me of her, the one whom I lovingly called ‘The Imperfect Angel.”